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The Power of Female Relationships

by Kelly Applegate-Nichols, Podcast Host, Writer, Spiritual Pathfinder

Woman is borne from the Goddess, the primordial Divine Feminine. The female of any species is sacred, being the only creatures who can literally give birth to things. Nothing happens without women, which is our magic. That magic is multiplied exponentially when two or more of us create bonds with one another.

Women have been gathering for millennia, in groups to commune with nature, to hold sacred space for the Goddess, to practice witchcraft within a coven, to divine messages from the Great Mother.

There are several matrilineal, matrifocal, and matriarchal Clans of women thriving in the world today in Indonesia, Kenya, Ghana, India, and elsewhere. Yet even outside of these loosely formalized systems, women are everywhere in sacred connection with each other; we need look no further than our own circle.

Some believe that our platonic relationships are even more important than the ones we have with romantic partners, even longtime commitments, or marriage.

How many of us have a best friend, a ride-or-die, a can’t-do-without female friend who is typically our first call in times of triumph or tragedy?

We know how to heal one another. We have the tenderness to be supportive, but honesty enough to tell each other uncomfortable truths. We know we do not serve one another by beating the drum of victimhood. We seek solutions rather than staying stuck in problems. We are stronger together.

Still, even if we have that relationship, we so frequently mistrust, or judge, or compete with all those other women, as if our closest friend is an exception to some unwritten rules.

Dividing women from one another is an insidious effect of the patriarchal systems in our society.

We might not be able to put our finger on it exactly, but when we meet a new woman, we may wonder if she can be trusted. We can feel this in our bones.

Have you found yourself drawn into gossip or judgement, knowing that doing so doesn’t represent the values you hold dear?

The time has come for us to normalize sisterhood.

Let’s start with saying “I love you” to the women in our lives and reject the notion that this very phrase is reserved for romantic partners.

Let us also do away with similar taboos in American culture by holding hands and even cuddling with our sisters. Physical, as well as emotional affection strengthen the ties that bind.

Beyond that, we need to open our hearts to all women, not just the ones already comfortably residing in our inner circle. Let our common refrain become, “Sister, how can I help you?”

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